It takes a village to raise a child (ancient African proverb). 

Such a small sentence that harbors such a great narrative. Almost everyone can immediately relate to it.  It evokes a sense of deep compassion, the feeling of ‘let’s do this together’! It is an impressive taste of loyalty, courage and trust in the journey of being a parent. Deep down you know: ‘You are not alone’.

‘Business Badasses’

Recently I had the privilege to give a masterclass to a cohort of 15 financially very successful founders in the USA. They are part of the Lions Pride network, and surround themselves with, as they like to call it: ‘Business Badasses’. One third of the group are veterans, for sure they master the drill of unrelenting perseverance knowing they always stick together.

Bill Watkins, the leader of the pact and a successful and modest visionair, invited me to get ‘into the heads’ of this high achiever Bravo group. He told me they wanted to be more emotionally aware; to have a better connection between their mind, body and soul as men, as leaders. ‘This group is special’, he said. Some have been through a lot. Naturally they share a deep bond.

Inner battles

Although many of these leaders have come a long way, some are still fighting on a daily basis; only this time they fight their inner battles. 

Al lot of successful leaders in general appear as strong, dedicated and balanced businessmen to the outside world. Meanwhile inside a completely different story takes place. They might be triggered by a.o. unresolved anger, frustration, fear and sadness causing all kinds of deeper feelings they don’t fully master. 

The gap

In the silent moments they worry, they lay awake. They experience a gap in how they manifest on the outside and how they feel on the inside. The gap might trigger anxious, restless, insecure, and emotional thoughts and feelings. And in turn it activates certain behavior. They find it hard sometimes to come home not being the dad, partner or friend they really want to be. They miss the feeling of being untroubled. 

Unfortunately they hardly ever talk about this gap, often because of a mixture of pride and fear. So most of the time they deal with this on their own, and naturally they feel alone. 

Get into their head 

To start the inside journey I sent them a short clip from the movie ‘The Legend of Bagger Vance’ (by Robert Redford) called ‘The Field’. I asked them to whom they felt strongly related; is it the innocent but wise child, the patient helper, the ignorant player or the conscious winner? 

Then I gave them 2 statements

  1. Am I valuable?
  2. Am I successful?

I asked them to instinctively pick the statement that affected them the most.

‘You are already in my head’, one of the members responded, and off we went. 

In this masterclass we unraveled the relation between their core theme (Am I valuable – Am I successful) and daily triggers. These triggers have an immediate impact on thoughts, deep emotions and actual behavior. 

Once triggered, the relation between thoughts, emotions and behavior will unfold mostly on a subconscious level.  

We worked through all the above ‘pillars’ and at the end the details were showing the bigger picture. Not just of the individuals but also as the ‘shared purpose’ of the group. 

The Field

What touched me the most was the general deep longing to dial into that field where you have full awareness and clarity of the bigger picture (all is fully aligned), and yet are still able to focus on the ball. At any given moment, like a top athlete. 

They were tired of constantly being distracted by the noise and scattering of daily business, experiencing constant repeating stories and then keeping on building off instead of refining. And sometimes they found themselves building walls, feeling alone. 

They realised that although it looked easy to just snap into this special zone of the conscious winner in the clip (Bobby Jones), it takes years of practice to get there; ‘only the ones who are really well prepared can improvise’ (I. Bergman). 

Sense of real value

What affected me the most though was one member telling me he was afraid of losing the feeling of being really valuable, like he felt in the military.

I see this a lot in my practice: how adding value and leaving a legacy act as almost unmatchable ‘engines’ for visionaries. It is not the product or service they provide, it is the company itself that is their ultimate creation. 

And once they realise that the source of their pain comes from the same source as their unique power (from the movie ‘Wild’ – based on the poem ‘Power’ by Adrienne Rich), they feel ignited again and start running their business driven by their deep values. It’s a point of no return.

One member reminded the rest of the group about knowing the two most important days of their lives; 

  1. one being born
  2. and the other: knowing why! 

And in that ‘spot’ exactly is where the vision is born! It aligns the inner and outer world. It closes the gap! 

If you want to be in ‘The Field’ you need to know your vision. Otherwise it will remain a visionless mission and you will always keep working hard, repeating the same story over and over. 

So no vision, no alignment. No field.  

It takes a Framework to make it happen

Many entrepreneurs have a vision, the problem is: it is inside their head! 

It is not often integrated in ‘the whole’ and supported by a framework, so people can actually get excited about it. How can it trigger a sense of deep commitment and the feeling of ‘let’s do this together’ if there is no clear destination, no coordinates, no routes?  

The leader feels alone because he is. 

Play a whole different game

Like it takes a village to raise a child, it takes a team to execute a vision. They can’t do that without a framework that integrates the vision ‘in the whole’. 

Most businesses have a 65% information loss in lower management and operational levels, at least! 

This framework ensures ignition, inspiration, clarity, energy and accountability from everyone involved and this is how it protects the business from waste. 

And the best part: you can tap into it at any given moment. 

This is for entrepreneurs who are ready to play a whole different game. Are you one of them? Then test here  in 1 minute how aligned your business is right now and feel free to book A Free Vision Call here.